This year, as with past years, I spent time thinking about how I would cope with the day, I even started a blog post about it. The day came and went and I totally forgot about it. So, apparently this is how I dysfunctionally deal with my mom’s deathiversary. For me, forgetting feels a lot worse than remembering the pain; which is why I’m writing this post today – to implore you to be like me. Distract yourself by getting together with friends, going to the movies, or taking a short trip. On the morning of October 24th I stepped out of my house and as soon as the smell of fall hit me I thought, holy crap, is it the day? Litsa and I have written many blog posts about dealing with grief on special days.
But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I’m close. Have a great weekend and come back on Monday for a juicy reader question from a woman who is ready to toss in the towel on men.
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It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for ‘meh’ relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. This is my best stuff and I’m giving it to you absolutely free.
But we highly recommend on days like the anniversary of a death that you first consider finding ways to honor and remember. Whatever you do we recommend you think ahead, anticipate the hard parts, and make a plan. Reach out to someone else grieving the loss via letter, card, phone call, or e-mail. Host a dinner party and invite those who knew your loved ones best. Cook your loved ones favorite dish, use one of their recipies to prepare a meal, or host a pot luck and ask people to bring a dish your loved one liked.