Even when you decide to answer, many users will not respond, having lost interest or been tempted by one of the site’s many other profiles.
Some people disappear after a few exchanges—sometimes even after you’ve made plans to meet.
This trickle continued for the next year and two months, averaging two messages a day.
I didn’t just wait to be noticed: I also actively messaged others.
The most mathematically promising one—at 99.5 percent—turned out to be one of my existing friends from law school.