This self-doubt is the biggest obstacle vegan women face when dating, Gottfried thinks.
When asked if society is typically unfriendly towards vegans, Gottfried says people often respond to them with “defensiveness and sometimes antagonism” because of their own ingrained feelings of guilt over consuming animal products.
The lifestyle choice also dictates what clothing, furniture and cosmetics you can use too.
In a relatively meat-and-dairy obsessed society where the dating world typically revolves around eating out, it can make dating – and finding a partner who either respects or is in line with vegan values – difficult.
Many of the omnivore partners she interviewed later began cutting meat (or “the cruelty” as she refers to it) out of their diet.
However, others find it hard to date someone who holds beliefs at odds with theirs especially when food and clothing are everyday, lifestyle issues.
However, most people she meets are inquisitive rather than offensive about her values.