I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.
I’m not judging – I can see how easy it is to get into that situation.
“They’re still getting over their ex,” “they just need more time,” or (ugh) “they’re scared of commitment,” but the fact is when someone meets the right person, they can’t propose marriage, or a joint rental agreement quick enough.
If you don’t have one, go out with whoever you want, whenever you want, wherever you want. You're only young once and you need to live it up while you can. But the most important thing is, whether you’re in a relationship or dating, make sure you’re putting yourself first and making yourself happy.
Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?
That’s right, dating and being in a relationship is totally different. Well, my friend, it's time to start thinking about it and taking into consideration the truth about being in a relationship vs. In relationships, you have to keep your focus on the right things to make it work.
If you love someone, you try your best to win this person over.
It can be with whoever you want and you can go bowling, out to dinner, go see a movie, etc.