This may mean spelling out that while you want your dad to speak, you think your mom has something important and different to say, and you want her to speak also.
Toasts should go in an order that makes sense to you, often ending with one of the most important people in your life.
Willink writes that he realized during his 20 years as a SEAL that, "Just as discipline and freedom are opposing forces that must be balanced, leadership requires finding the equilibrium in the dichotomy of many seemingly contradictory qualities between one extreme and another." By being aware of these seeming contradictions, a leader can "more easily balance the opposing forces and lead with maximum effectiveness." Here are the 12 main dichotomies of leadership Willink identifies as traits every effective leader should have.
Willink says a common misconception the public has about the military is that subordinates mindlessly follow every order they're given.
It will also come as no surprise that we think this is the wrong answer.
Order your toasts in a way that makes sense to you, and try to end on what you expect to be the most emotional toast last.
As a SEAL officer, Willink needed to be aggressive ("Some may even accuse me of hyperagression," he says) but he differentiated being a powerful presence to his SEAL team from being an intimidating figure.