Legislation has also abolished the possibility of reparatory marriage; in the past a person accused of rape or forceful abduction could avoid punishment by marrying the victim.In the southern end of the archipelago, where the majority of the Muslims live, a dowry is agreed on before a formal marriage arrangement is signed. D., Encyclopedia of Sexuality www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology, 2001 |~|] Love marriages with parental approval—as opposed to arranged marriages—are the norm although parents often play a role in choosing marriage partners for their children.
There are five widely shared rules or “commandments” associated with courtship: 1) Say “yes” to the first invitation.
2) It is a prerequisite to have an escort, either a friend or next of kin, on the first date (no escort is necessary for a woman 28 years or older.
|~| Although polygyny had a long history in pre-colonial Filipino civilization and was common in the Muslim community prior to the 1970s, polygynous marriages are the exception today.
The majority of sophisticated, highly educated males, whether Muslim or Christian, choose to be monogamous for financial reasons.
In rural areas, young men have traditionally serenaded women under their bedroom window. Tuksuhan lang (just teasing) is the usual term associated with pairing off potential couples in Filipino culture. It is a way of matching people who may have mutual admiration or affection for each other.