And discovering one flaw means it's time to move on.
But the beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws.
You might get into a relationship with someone who loves Jesus, meets the values you have in a future spouse and is compatible with you. Just end the relationship and continue to seek the Lord. Again, please don't be a freakish weirdo and give Christians a negative label. My wife loves the Lord, and I can say with all certainty I wouldn't be following Jesus without her. Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient or settling.
But once you get into the relationship, you realize things aren't as they seemed. Having coffee or going to eat dinner with the opposite sex is not dating. There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left will be your spouse. In this scenario, your spouse is there to pray for you, put his or her arm around you and walk with you. It's dangerous riding on the road to marriage without an idea of where you are going. Don't sit someone down on the first date and interview them to make sure they meet all of the qualities.
Stop Looking for "the One""Frank, how will I know when I find 'the one'? If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back. Here's the deal: God doesn't set up marriage as a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket.
That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Look, marriage isn't as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despite difficulties and differences."The one" says you need to find the perfect person.
It dives deep into the sorts of things that make us into the people we are today.