If you’ve had a different experience or want to share your story, please do so (nicely! I think girls assume guys don’t take online dating seriously, so they act too cool for it, which is a waste of time. I do, at least.” –James, 23 “I’m addicted to online dating. I’m always running into guys like, “Where do I know you from? My account is deactivated right now, because things got busy at work. If your ideal Friday night is to make dinner with friends and play Mario Kart because it’s hard to go out after a long week of work (may or may not be an excerpt from my now-deactivated Ok Cupid profile), put it out there.
"And mostly they're pretty unfounded." Rosenfeld, who has been keeping tabs on the dating lives of more than 3,000 people, has gleaned many insights about the growing role of apps like Tinder.
They are important today — roughly one of every four straight couples now meet on the Internet.
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts.
"There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.
It’s hard to define a person by search terms, especially if you haven’t met them in person.